On today’s grace post, a space especially reserved for appreciating the little things, I’d like to take this opportunity to express my gratitudes to you.
Thank you so much
I’m informed by my dashboard that I’ve written 58 posts this year. My heartfelt thanks to all of you who read my stories – some useful, some uttermost rubbish! I treasure all your kind comments, both written and verbally expressed. I am really touched to say the least.
I am personally very grateful to have found a release. As an introvert, writing is definitely a better outlet for me. Put me in a group and I’d struggle to express my point but give me a keyboard and the story is quite different. It’s great to get things out of my chest. It’s even better if the shared thoughts are inspiring us in our daily lives.
Sorry for stealing the thunder but as it’s the last post this year and we are only a few days shy of Christmas, I couldn’t help sharing some thoughts. I love the countdown to Christmas. There is a lot of excitement in the air, rush, panic, joy, endless errands – all in anticipation of the big day. It’s a special time for sure where everything seems to be getting a high priority. In the midst of it all, I have two thoughts which keep ringing in my ears. These two things go hand in hand. I was quite pleasantly surprised when I came across a quote which backed me up.
“There is no love without forgiveness and there is no forgiveness without love”- Bryant H McGil
I’m totally not an expert in the subject of love per se, but I do believe that our actions are replicated to a certain extent. If we project a positive outlook, chances are we might attract a similar response in return. I’m quite a fan of the book The Secret, and The Laws of Attraction (there are some references on my blog) where you can read more about how our thoughts and actions command the kind of response we receive. From my actions in the past, I’ve learnt that if I speak nicely to the postman, he is nice back to me and if I lose my temper, he does the same thing.
love begets love
I knew a friend back in UK – lets call her Flower, who truly embodies this message. But let me be clear, by love I do not simply mean the love shared in an intimate relationship, but rather the acts of love in our daily actions as we interact with each other. Flower is the one person that everybody ran to whenever they had problems or just wanted to share some good news. Flower would listen without judgement, without prejudices. She would offer her unbiased advice. She would share your excitement as if it were her own personal gain. She never took sides nor did she ever make you feel guilty for your mistakes and after all, mistakes are not intentional. She always managed to bring everybody together, no matter how far the mountains. I never knew anybody who tried to antagonise her. In return, Flower was always treated with kindness, with gentleness, with respect – just as she treated other people. I know Flower is quite special but I think we can try to find it in us to be like her. I think the capacity to improve within us is enormous. So go ahead and spread some love.
Forgiveness is a tough one. It takes a strong and a bigger person to do it. For me personally, if someone does me wrong, the introverted me takes it to a whole new level! The biggest slap hits me right from the beginning. I find it so difficult to voice out what’s wrong. Then the longer I leave it (I need time to digest it, figure out why and what if, etc.) the more difficult it gets to resolve. Sometimes I choose to ignore it, meaning – I live with the pain and the other party lives happily ever after, without the slightest knowledge that they left me bruised. So in the end of the day, it does help to resolve the issue, forgive and let go. In cases where I actually achieved that, I have always felt a huge relief off my chest. Has this ever happened to you? How great are those kiss & make-up sessions? Sometimes we hold a grudge where we can’t even remember the origins of. Are you really still mad at that high school friend who stole your boyfriend or girfriend? I know that I’m not because I chose to be the bigger person who chose forgiveness. Life is so much bearable and happier when we co-exist together in harmony. Here are some of my favourite quotes:
“Forgiveness is not something we do for other people, it is something we do for ourselves to move on”
“Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free, and realising you were the prisoner”
“Forgiveness is freedom”
Once again, thank you very much for reading my posts this year. As a foreigner in a new land, life can get a bit lonely but this blog has definitely put a positive spin on that. It has certainly been rewarding to learn from you and share my journey. If there are any aspects of my blog that you like more, do not hesitate to let me know and I shall find a way to incorporate them. If not, we have some more stories and more surprises next year. In the meantime, as we spend time with family and friends, lets continue to act with love and remember to forgive so as to set ourselves free. I wish you all lots of love and joy this Christmas. Be happy, keep smiling and the world will smile with you.
… a prosperous 2017