My kind of leader


As I was jogging last weekend, I couldn’t help replaying a typical married couples’ scenery in my head, of which I’ll share later. Eventually, my thoughts transcended into the idea of this blog post, as do most of my ideas, which seem to be born during the course of my running sessions. So I have a question for you:

Who is a great leader?

I know that If I am asked that question, I would actually think for a few minutes then come up with the usual broad spectrum answer. The great Nelson Mandela, mother Theresa, Mahatma Gandhi and a plethora of names, none of which are close to home. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll always respect and admire these great leaders who touched and led millions of people. However, the kind of leader that I would like to talk about today is not a far away leader that I wouldn’t have personally met. Actually I’ll take that back, I did meet mother Theresa when she visited her orphanage in my country, but I was so young then that I just thought she was one of my mothers many nun friends ;-/

“If we look around us, there are plenty of leaders. Leaders who can empower us, who can enable us and who can show us the way.”

Coming back to that married couples’ scenery, I like to think that ‘I am the boss’ at home. I dictate jobs (nicely, I promise) and I expect them to be done. Luckily I don’t have to ask for much, some people just know how to use their own initiative.

Last weekend I tasked my husband to do something on my computer. His response was: ‘come and watch how I do it so that next time you will know how to do it yourself’. I didn’t like it at the time as I was in a rush to go to the gym and he was simply delaying me. I watched sulkily but I did learn. As I’m not so rushed now and I am fully empowered to do it myself, I can safely proclaim: I love that! He always wants to


So to me, a great leader is one who can walk away and things will still go on smoothly behind their back.

With my focus being my hero at home, I shall give you a couple more examples of what I admire in a leader. I know way too many examples where he has done this to a point that I think to myself ‘I want to be just like you’.

Lead by example

He won’t ask of anything that he wouldn’t do himself. For example, he won’t ask you to be present at work if he is not there, weekends included. I am much more inclined to follow this kind of a leader if I can see by my own eyes that he also does the same thing as he is asking of me.

Respect & Gratitudes

One of the first words that we are repeatedly taught to say as children is – thank you. I’ve seen how my hero would look into the eyes of a person and say these words. Sometimes the receiver is completely thrown off balance as they don’t expect to hear these words. He would compliment any positive effort, no matter how small. He would respectfully hold a door for a young person or old, run to help an old lady with her bags, I could go on and on. 

So if I come back to you again with that question, who is your closest leader that you can emulate? A partner, a friend, a sister, a neighbour, a pet or still some big shot politician? I thought we could look closer around us. Most great things begin at home. As for me, my kind of leader is a leader that I can draw inspiration from day in, day out, a kind of leader that doesn’t hold my hand but sets me free so that I can fly. 


  1. This is so beautiful and inspiring Maria :-).
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts with the world, i think we all can learn from eachother.

    As you were asking of who is a leader, i really thought about it and I have to agree with you.

    Those are people nearby, people who always keep to their promises, stand for their word and like your husband they never expect anything from others that they would nt do!

    People who go through bad times and still have a positive outlook on life.

    There are just lil things in life, maybe because somebody else is more patient than i am and try to calm me down 🙂

    I really do love your outlook on life and how you admit that you did learn something new as well.

    Cant wait for new thoughts of Maria.

    Good night and sweet dreams xoxoxo

  2. Hallo liebe Alex,

    Thank you so much for your kind comments. It makes me happy to share some positive thoughts (even though it might just be a tiny grain of sand) in a world where we are surrounded by negativity.

    And I agree with you too that we need to look closer around us, learning from people who have been through hardship and still have a positive outlook. Love that.

    Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts Alex. And that’s why I take time to share these little stories, I think we can all inspire each other. It’s not a glossy magazine or a hollywood movie but just simple real life examples, which in my opinion are one of the best. They are more believable and doable, from day to day.

    Have a lovely day 🙂
    Maria xoxo

  3. I love this!

    Just by talking to a friend or see other people’s actions (bad or good) or even through young children, we can all learn from them. Through the years, I learned that, in any circumstance, taking the high road is always a great way to set an example as a leader.
    I’m so grateful to be surrounded by wonderful people where each day I learn from them.

  4. Yes you are absolutely right about learning from kids and doing it the right way no matter the hardship. Like you, I also gather inspiration from all around too.
    Thank you so much for sharing and have a great week Gladys.

  5. Dear Marie, this is so inspiring!

    The person that was ( and always will be) my leader is my grandfather : I learned from his actions and words that we have to give love to receive love back, that we have to be kind everyday, that we never should judge others without knowing their story…he was the most fairest person I ever meet and there isn’t a day that passes when Idon’t remembre him.
    I learn a lot with my kids too :they are so pure and authentic 🙂 they are really the best of me 🙂
    So, that’s why i love this ” little piece of heaven” that you call your blog : you always make me think about good and important things and I feel so inspired everytime I read your thoughts.

    Thank you so much for sharing my dear!

    Sending you much love,


  6. Aww Isabel, how lovely! I love this story about your granddad. He sounds like he left a huge print in you, an honourable man. I believe in everything he said and did. We need more of this in our world today. So it’s no wonder we have a loving soul like yourself today, love begets love.
    And about your children, I couldn’t agree more. I think we can learn a lot from them. I love the absolute purity from them.

    Thank you so much for reading and your kind comments. I am so touched.

    Obrigada xoxoxo

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